Do I need Jesus in my life?
Friend, how are you—really?
Does life feel heavy right now? Are you searching for something to fill the emptiness? Craving hope in the chaos? Fighting your battles alone while wishing there was a better way?
We get it. We’ve been there, too . . .
But then we met someone who changed everything: Jesus.
Before you start thinking, “Not this religious stuff again,” we’re not talking about empty rituals with a long checklist of do's and don'ts. We’re talking about meeting the one who can restore what’s broken—because the truth is, the world is broken, and so are we.
Life wasn't meant to be this way.
Did you know God originally created a beautiful world where everyone and everything lived in harmony? (Genesis 1:31a; Psalm 19:1). But sin—choosing our own way instead of God’s—shattered his perfect design. The Bible says that we all have sinned, and the consequence is separation from God now and for eternity (Romans 3:23; Romans 6:23a).
We need a Rescuer.
We may try many things that make us feel better for a while, but no quick "fix" can heal what’s broken (Proverbs 14:12). Fortunately, God didn’t leave us in our brokenness. Though our sin carries a penalty, he made a way for us to be restored. God sent his only son, Jesus, to take our sin and shame to a cross, paying the debt we could never pay on our own (John 3:16; Colossians 2:14). And the story doesn’t end there! Jesus rose from the grave, defeating death and offering us forgiveness, freedom, and new life in him (1 Peter 1:3; 1 Corinthians 15:3-4).
We must admit our need for help.
Admitting our need for help is never easy, but if we do, Jesus promises to save us and set our lives in a new direction (Romans 10:9). All we need to do is turn from our own way, put our faith and trust in him, and choose to follow him.
Because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved (Romans 10:9).
Saying yes to Jesus changes everything. Our relationship with God is restored, and we gain hope and purpose in the middle of a messy world. Jesus becomes our guide, walking with us through every season, so that we never have to feel alone again (Isaiah 41:10; Joshua 1:9; Psalm 23:4).
So, the answer is simple.
We need Jesus because the world is broken, we are broken, and he's the only one who can make us new.
If you want to explore what life with Jesus looks like, we’d love to talk—over coffee, on the phone, or by email. We'd also love to invite you to Berean. You're welcome here and invited to come as you are.
Connect with us today. Your journey can start right now!
How do I get to heaven?
Another day, another shocking headline in the news, another unsettling post on social media . . . Sometimes the world feels out of control—and maybe, at times, your life does, too.
Do you ever long for something certain you can put your hope in now and even beyond this life? Do you wonder if there’s something better than what you’ve experienced on earth—a place without problems and pain? What about heaven? Is it real? If so, how do you get there?
Here’s some great news: Heaven is real, and there’s a place for you!
There is only one way to heaven.
The Bible says God has prepared an incredible place for each one of us in heaven with him (John 14:1-3; Revelation 21:4; Psalm 16:11). Many will tell you that you can get to heaven by living a "good" life and doing "good" deeds. But here's the truth: We can't earn our way to heaven, and being a “good" person is never enough. The Bible teaches that the only way to heaven is through Jesus, God's son (John 14:6). Tragically, many "good" people will miss heaven and spend eternity in hell, because they never knew and accepted Jesus (Revelation 20:15; Matthew 25:46).
Receiving salvation is simpler than you may think.
If you would like to invite Jesus to transform your life, follow these truths:
- Acknowledge that you are a sinner. We’ve all made mistakes and pushed God aside to do things our own way at times (Romans 3:23).
- Recognize that sin separates you from God. Sin leaves you lost and broken, and if unaddressed, keeps you from God forever (Isaiah 59:2; Romans 6:23a).
- Believe that God loves you. God loves you so much that he sent his only son, Jesus, to die on the cross to pay for all your sins (Romans 5:8).
- Understand that Jesus is your only hope. No one comes to the Father except through Jesus (John 14:6).
- Make a personal decision to follow Jesus. Turn from your sin, ask for forgiveness, and invite Jesus into your life. Salvation is between you and God. Nobody else can make this decision for you (Romans 10:9; John 3:16).
- Know that salvation is a gift. It’s not earned by good works. Grace is God’s favor given freely; just open your heart and receive it (Ephesians 2:8-9).
- Realize that anyone can receive salvation. No mistake or failure disqualifies God’s love from reaching you (Romans 10:13).
- Know that nothing can separate you from God’s love. Once saved, your hope is secure in Jesus’ finished work on the cross (Romans 8:38-39).
For everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved (Romans 10:13).
You can accept Jesus today.
If you're ready, by faith, you can invite Jesus into your life right now with this prayer:
"Dear God, I acknowledge that I am a sinner, lost and broken, and that my sin separates me from you. I believe you sent your only son, Jesus, to die on a cross for all my sins, canceling my debt. I invite Jesus into my heart and life to save me and transform me from the inside out. I want to live for you. Amen."
If you’ve accepted Jesus, celebrate! He wants to walk with you, transform your life, and work through you in powerful ways. Let us know about your decision so we can walk alongside you as you begin this journey. Join us in worship at Berean—online or in person—and don’t keep the good news of Jesus to yourself. Share it with those around you; it has the power to change their lives, too!
Still have questions?
If you still have questions or feel uncertain, that’s completely normal. We’d love to chat—over coffee, email, or phone. You matter, and we’ll talk as long as you need.
Connect with us today!
What does a new life in Jesus look like?
Life with Jesus doesn’t mean everything becomes easy or perfect. Your problems won’t disappear, and you won’t always get what you want. But it does mean you always have a friend by your side—bringing peace and lasting joy no matter what you face.
As you get to know Jesus, you will learn some beautiful truths.
Jesus takes what’s broken and makes it new. The following truths are from the Bible, God's Word. As you allow them to transform you, you will find that life with Jesus is better—fuller, freer, and overflowing with purpose.
- God created you. You are made in his image, fully known, and deeply loved (Psalm 139:13–14).
- God loves you unconditionally. His love is a free gift that never fades or fails (Romans 8:37-39).
- God forgives you. Through Jesus, your sins are washed away, and you are made new (1 John 1:9; 2 Corinthians 5:17).
- God gives you a family. You belong as his son or daughter (2 Corinthians 6:18).
- God is your true friend. You can talk to him anytime, anywhere, about anything. He wants to know what's on your heart (Hebrews 4:16).
- God sets you free. Whatever weighs you down, you can lay it at his feet and leave it there (Romans 8:1-2).
- God gives you his Spirit. The Holy Spirit lives in you, empowering, guiding, and reminding you of God’s truth (John 14:26; Acts 1:8).
- God guides and protects you. He leads you through life’s twists and turns (Psalm 119:105).
- God is always with you. He will never leave you or abandon you (Deuteronomy 31:6; Matthew 28:20).
- God is your anchor. People change, but he never does. He’s your steady rock (Hebrews 13:8).
- God gives you value and worth. Your identity and value come from him, not the world (Luke 12:6-7).
- God has a future for you. He can use your gifts and story in ways you can’t imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
- God gives you purpose. You are called to live for his glory and share his love with others (Matthew 28:19–20; 1 Peter 2:9).
- God gives you eternal hope. He promises an inheritance that never fades (1 Peter 1:3-4).
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you (1 Peter 1:3-4).
You don't have to walk this journey alone.
Just as Jesus calls you into relationship with him, he invites you into community with others. At Berean, we’d love to walk with you, encourage you, and cheer you on.
Still have questions? Let’s talk—over coffee, by phone, or email. However you’re most comfortable, we’re here for you. Start by connecting with us here today!
I've accepted Jesus. Now what?
Friend, we couldn’t be more thrilled for you! However you came to faith in Jesus, you’ve made the most important decision of your life—and that’s incredible news.
At the same time, you might be feeling a mix of joy and questions. Maybe you’re wondering, “What’s next? Where do I go from here?” That’s completely normal!
Following Jesus is a journey. It begins with a decisive step of faith and continues with daily choices—believing, trusting, growing, and walking with him.
There are steps you can take right now to help you grow in your faith, connect with others, and experience the fullness of life God has for you.
Find a church to call home.
From the very beginning, God designed us for relationship—with him and one another. Faith flourishes best when it’s nurtured in community. As we gather with other believers, we grow through shared encouragement, learning, prayer, service, and love. Together, we strengthen one another to keep trusting God when life is hard, extend grace as we practice forgiveness and humility, and celebrate with joy as we see God at work in our lives. Community reminds us that we’re never alone—it offers encouragement when we’re weary and accountability when we begin to drift.
We’d love to invite you to find your community here at Berean. Whether you’re ready to jump into a class or Bible study, or you’d like to simply attend and observe services, there’s a place for you. You don’t have to have it all figured out, and it’s okay to take things at your own pace.
Celebrate what God has done for you.
Saying yes to Jesus is worth celebrating! One of the most meaningful ways to share what God has done in your life is through baptism. Baptism is an outward expression of an inward transformation—it declares to others that you’ve been made new in Christ.
At Berean, we offer a Baptism Class to help you understand why this step of faith is so significant and to encourage you to take the step of baptism when you're ready. Learn more about this class here.
Grow in your friendship with God.
Every deep friendship is built on regular connection, and the same is true of your relationship with God. Your faith will grow through rhythms, such as spending time in prayer. Sometimes, prayer looks like an hour on your knees, while other times it looks like simple conversations with God throughout your whole day. You matter to him, and he wants to hear what matters to you.
You can talk to God just like you would your closest friend—because that’s exactly who he is.
You can learn more about God's heart, character, and design for you by reading his Word, the Bible. The Book of John is a great place to begin. As you read the Bible and let God’s truth sink in, you will likely find yourself desiring to read more. If you need a Bible, let us know! We’d love to get one into your hands.
At Berean, we want to help you grow in your friendship with God, too. Whether it's through classes or Bible studies, getting plugged into a group, or using resources on your own, you'll find plenty of opportunities to take your faith even deeper.
Share your hope with a hurting world.
The hope you’ve found in Jesus isn’t meant to be hidden—it’s meant to shine. God invites you to tell the story of what he’s done for you and to reflect his love in practical ways: by coming alongside others, listening to their struggles, offering encouragement, and serving with compassion. Whether it’s within your church, neighborhood, or around the world, the way you treat others has the power to point them to Jesus.
There are countless opportunities to step in and make a difference at Berean. However God has gifted you, he wants to use your life to bring hope to others as part of his mission! Explore ways to serve here.
We’re here for you.
The Christian life is a journey, and God promises to complete the good work he began in you (Philippians 1:6). We’d love to come alongside you to answer your questions, pray with you, and cheer you on as you grow in faith. Whether it’s a simple conversation over coffee, a quick email, or a phone call, we want to connect in a way that feels natural for you.
Start the conversation today by connecting with us here. We can’t wait to hear from you!
Am I enough?
Have you ever asked yourself this question? Once? Twice? Maybe a hundred times? In a world of picture-perfect Instagram feeds and filtered realities, it’s no wonder so many of us lie awake at night wondering if we measure up. Our culture of comparison leaves us feeling inadequate—or at least, less than.
It’s exhausting, isn’t it?
Your job title, degree, house, body, social media followers, and bank account—society sets the bar impossibly high.
So how’s that working out for you? Feeling tired? Worn down from trying to keep up? You’re not alone. We’ve been there, too. The good news? There’s a better way—and it’s not about striving harder.
Know your true identity.
Here’s the truth, friend: on our own, we’re not enough. None of us is. Without Jesus, we’re all broken and in need of grace (Romans 3:23). The beautiful thing is that God doesn’t measure us by our achievements or status. We all stand equal before him, fully seen and fully loved.
And when we accept Jesus, everything changes. He gives us a new identity, makes us whole, and declares that we are enough—in him.
Don’t look around . . . look up!
Stop looking around to find your worth. Instead, look up to Jesus. He’s the one who defines who you are. When doubt creeps in, remind yourself of these powerful truths:
- You are wonderfully created.
Before you were born, God designed every detail of who you are. You are his masterpiece—crafted with love and purpose (Psalm 139:13–17).
- You are beautifully unique.
You’re not meant to be a copy of someone else. God gave you gifts that are yours alone (1 Corinthians 12:4–6). Remember—an original is always better than a duplicate.
- You are noticed and known.
You never go unseen. God knows you completely—your thoughts, your heart, your story (Psalm 139:1–7).
- You are loved and accepted.
God’s love doesn’t depend on what you’ve done or who you are. He meets you right where you are—mess and all—and welcomes you with open arms (1 John 3:1).
- You have a purpose.
You were created for something bigger—God’s plan. He’s not looking for perfection, just surrender. When you give him your heart, he can do more than you could ever imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
- You are worth it.
Jesus saw your flaws and still chose the cross. He gave his life so you could be free and fully his. You are valuable to him (Romans 5:6–8).
What will you choose?
You can let the world define you—or let Jesus define you.
Only Jesus' love tells the true story of who you are and where your worth comes from.
So today, choose to place your value not in what fades, but in what is eternal—the promises of God (2 Corinthians 4:18).
Your story matters, and you belong.
No matter your past or your experience with church, you are welcome at Berean. We’re a community of hope where Jesus’ love transforms lives. You’ll find a family here—people who will love you, encourage you, and walk beside you on your journey.
Have questions? Let’s chat over coffee, email, or phone—whatever’s most comfortable for you.
Remember: you matter, and you are enough—in Jesus.
Does anyone love me?
Perhaps life has hit you hard. People you trusted let you down. Some you loved hurt you. Others changed or walked away. And now you’re trying to make sense of it all. It’s lonely. It’s heavy. It’s hard.
You’ve been hurt too many times and can’t help but wonder if real love even exists. Maybe you’ve experienced conditional “love”—the kind that says, “If you do this, then I’ll love you.” Perhaps you've experienced feelings-based “love”—the kind that says, “I’ll love you when I feel like it.” Perhaps others often say, “I love you,” but their actions don't back up their words.
We all crave love. But what is it really? What should it look like? And does anyone actually love us?
True love exists—and it's for you!
Friend, there is a love that chooses you—one without conditions that is unlike anything this world offers. You don’t have to chase it, earn it, or search for it—because it’s already found you.
This is the love of God.
Before you tune that out as “just another religious idea,” why not give God a chance? Why not try him and experience his love for yourself? He just might surprise you!
What makes God's love different?
When you’ve been let down so many times, it’s easy to wonder what makes God’s love any different. Maybe you’re thinking, “I’ve heard that before.” But God’s love isn’t like the kind that’s hurt you, failed you, or faded when things got hard. His love is deeper, stronger, and unlike anything else you’ll ever experience.
So, what makes God's love so incredible?
- God’s love is personal. He doesn’t love you as part of a crowd—he loves you. He knows your name, your story, and everything you’ve walked through. His love meets you right where you are (Isaiah 43:1; Psalm 139:1–4).
- God’s love is proven. He didn’t just say he loves you—he proved it by sending his only son, Jesus, to die on a cross for you (John 3:16).
- God’s love is sacrificial. While the world says “me first,” God put you first. He gave everything to provide a way for you to have a new life in him (1 John 4:10).
- God’s love forgives. He doesn’t hold grudges or keep score. When you confess your sins to him, he wipes your slate clean and gives you a fresh start (Micah 7:18).
- God’s love restores. When life leaves you broken or weary, his love heals what’s been hurt and brings new life where things once felt lost (Psalm 147:3).
- God’s love sets you free. You are not defined by your past. Nothing you’ve done can change how he feels about you (Romans 8:1–2).
- God’s love is strong. Human love often fails under pressure. God’s love never does—not even through your darkest nights or hardest days (Romans 8:38–39).
For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8:38-39).
- God’s love is faithful. When others walk away, he stays. His promises never fail, and his love doesn’t waver (Deuteronomy 7:9; 2 Timothy 2:13).
- God’s love pursues you. No matter how far you wander, he never stops seeking you. He heals, restores, and rejoices when you return to him (Ezekiel 34:15–16).
- God’s love is steady. It doesn’t change with moods or circumstances. You can count on him, always (Hebrews 13:8).
- God’s love is pure. He loves you simply because love is who he is—no hidden motives, no strings attached (1 John 4:7–8).
- God’s love is patient. He doesn’t give up when you fail. He walks with you through doubts and fears, showing mercy with every step (Psalm 86:15).
- God’s love protects. You are safe in his care. His perfect love drives out fear (1 John 4:18).
- God’s love provides. He may not give you everything you want, but he will give you everything you need (Matthew 6:25–26).
- God’s love satisfies. Even when people let you down, his love fills the empty spaces in your heart (Psalm 107:9).
- God’s love transforms. When you experience his love, you’re never the same. It changes how you see yourself, others, and the world around you (2 Corinthians 5:17).
- God’s love never ends. It doesn’t fade, fail, or run out. His love is faithful forever (Lamentations 3:22–23).
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness (Lamentations 3:22-23).
Start living loved!
God’s love is the greatest gift you’ll ever receive. Don’t just hear about it—experience it and start living loved today!
Want to learn more about God's love? Let's chat over coffee, by phone, or by email—whatever’s most comfortable for you. You’re also invited to Berean! No matter your story, you are loved, wanted, and welcome here.
Connect with us here to start the conversation today!
What is my purpose?
Ten thousand social media followers. A promotion at work. A trophy on your shelf. A goal finally checked off your list.
It’s what we all want, right? To matter. To make a difference. To know that the life we’re living isn’t just routine, but meaningful. We want to be seen, needed, and to leave a mark—whether through our relationships, our work, our passions, or our achievements.
Yet somewhere along the way, life can start to feel heavy. The daily grind becomes monotonous. Achievements feel hollow. Even good intentions can leave us wondering—does this really matter? Am I making any difference at all?
If that’s you, you’re not alone. Every heart longs for purpose.
Here’s the good news: your purpose isn’t a mystery. You don’t have to work for years to earn it or pray you simply stumble upon it—it’s already been revealed.
God's Word, the Bible, is not just a guide for your spiritual life—it’s a roadmap for discovering why you exist. Within its pages, you'll find assurance that your life has an extraordinary purpose.
You are here for a reason.
You are here, in this time and place, because God created you intentionally. In fact, every day of your life was written before one even came to be (Psalm 139:15–16). Isn't that incredible? Your life is not an accident, and you’re not too early or too late—you’re right on time for what God has called you to do.
Consider the ripple effect of your life:
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The friend battling loneliness—you were meant to be a source of comfort.
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The co-worker struggling with self-worth—you can share hope and encouragement.
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The child or spouse in your care—you are an anchor to them.
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The neighbor feeling unseen—you can offer a smile, a listening ear, and companionship.
Even your smallest acts of kindness matter. Every word, every gesture, every choice contributes to a greater plan. God has tasks for you to accomplish, people to meet, and encouragement to give (Ephesians 2:10).
If you have breath in your lungs, you are here for a reason.
You are part of God's bigger plan.
Jesus said the greatest commandment is: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind” (Matthew 22:37–38).
That is your primary purpose: to walk in relationship with God and to pursue knowing and loving him with every ounce of your being. He desires a personal connection with you—for you to talk to him as your best friend, seek his guidance, and trust him with the path of your life. When you do, your love for him will naturally overflow into every corner of your world.
Matthew 22:39 tells us the secondary purpose of your life on this earth: to “love your neighbor as yourself.”
As you grow in your love for Jesus, he will infuse you with a love for others. He empowers you to extend that love to those around you and wants to use you in ways far beyond what you can imagine. Remember, Genesis 1:26–27 says that you are created in God’s image. That means you are his image-bearer, called to reflect him to the world. Through your life, he wants to change hearts, bring hope, and restore joy to others, transforming ordinary moments into extraordinary impact (Ephesians 3:20).
So, your purpose is both simple and profound: love God fully and let that love flow through you to the world.
Embrace your purpose today.
Stop waiting. Stop searching. Stop stressing. Stop wondering if your life matters. Your purpose is happening right now. You are exactly where you need to be.
If you're looking for a community that will encourage you, equip you, and walk alongside you in your purpose, you're invited to Berean! Here, you’ll discover opportunities to grow in your faith, deepen your understanding of Jesus, and use your gifts to impact others.
Still have questions about your purpose? Let’s talk over coffee, email, or phone—whatever works for you. Connect with us here to start the conversation today!
Your life matters. Your purpose is real. And God is waiting to show you just how extraordinary it can be!
Is there hope for my depression?
Sadness. Anxiousness. Hopelessness. Sleepless nights. Is that you right now, friend?
What’s on your mind? Is it the mess at home? A strained relationship? A health crisis? A toxic work environment? Or, perhaps it’s the loss of a loved one, a prolonged period of stress, loneliness, the trauma of an abusive past, or an uncertain future.
The causes of depression are many. Sometimes even unknown. But what is certain is that this is real. You know how you feel. You just want it to go away, but you don’t know what to do. You’ve been criticized for it, shamed for it, and told to just “get over it.”
We want you to know we’re here for you. We’re not medical doctors or mental health professionals, but we care about you. And guess what? Help is available.
This life is hard. We get it. We struggle too. But though we know this life can hurt, we also know that there is hope - and this hope is for you!
It’s okay to be sad sometimes.
In fact, God created you with feelings and emotions. He gave you the ability to feel joy and also to feel pain. To smile as well as to cry. To jump for joy and to let the tears freely fall. It’s okay. Nobody can be happy all the time. Even Jesus himself displayed emotions including, at times, sadness (John 11:35; Luke 19:41; Hebrews 5:7). It’s okay for you to feel all your emotions too.
But persistent sadness may be a warning flag.
Everything in this life has a time or a season. Moments come and they go. So, too, do our emotions. Just like our moments of happiness do not last forever, our times of sadness shouldn’t either. The Bible says that our sadness should only be for a time or for a season and that joy can be restored at the dawn of a new day (Ecclesiastes 3:4; Psalm 30:4-5).
There is a difference between sadness and depression.
Sometimes your sadness may begin to heal once you recognize the cause of your feelings, acknowledge them, and seek a safe outlet to talk about them. Perhaps what you need is simply to talk to someone you trust - a confidential, caring friend who is willing to listen – so that you can express what’s going on. Maybe more than anything, you just need a non-judgmental person who will show up and walk with you.
But other times, your sadness seems to have no end, and you feel that no matter what you try it won’t go away. It just feels like there’s no hope. This kind of sadness is depression. The degrees of depression vary from mild to severe. If you are feeling hopeless, and your depression is impacting your life in a very real and negative way, it is time to seek help.
It’s okay to seek professional help.
Friend, we know that depression is very real. We know it hurts, and we in no way want to downplay its seriousness. Just as you would for any other illness, there are times it’s wise to seek the help of a medical professional for depression. It’s okay to talk to a doctor, a counselor, or a mental health professional. There’s no shame in that. Email us here. We’d love to chat and get you connected with someone who can help.
There is also someone who can change your life.
When nothing around you brings joy, there is Jesus. Allowing Jesus into your life is the best decision you can ever make. When you find him, he gives a joy that goes deeper than your circumstances. He gives a hope that is above anything you are going through. He promises that the trials of this life will one day fade away and that he will wipe away every tear from your eyes.
Now, it doesn’t mean this life will be easy, but because of Jesus’ promise you have a forever hope to which you can cling.
Jesus will always remain the same, and no matter who or what changes around you, he will never walk away from you (Revelation 21:4; Psalm 16:8-9; Romans 15:13; Philippians 4:6-7; Hebrews 13:8). Be sure to read the articles above to find out more about this Jesus and how he can change your life.
Write these truths on your heart and remind yourself daily.
You can be intentional about filling your mind with good things. Try these affirmations to fight back against your depression:
- God cares about my suffering (Psalm 34:18).
- God will never leave me alone (Isaiah 43:2).
- God’s love for me never changes (Romans 8:38-39).
- God defines me; my depression doesn’t (Psalm 139:14).
- God still has good things planned for me (Ephesians 2:10).
- God is going to help me get through this (Psalm 46:1).
You don’t have to face your depression alone.
Asking for help? We know that’s not easy, but it is SO worth it! We really mean it. You don’t have to go through this alone. Whether you’re seeking the help of a professional, needing to talk to someone who will listen, or wanting to learn more about Jesus, we’re here for you!
No matter what you’ve been told in the past. No matter how others have made you feel. We want you to know that you are loved just as you are. You’re not a bad person. You’re not less than because of what you’re going through.
And you should never be ashamed to talk about your struggles. After all, we’re all only human and we certainly have struggles too.
At Berean, we would love to walk with you through this journey. Let’s chat over coffee or by email or phone - whatever makes you feel most comfortable. This is a safe space for you to share. We’ll keep things confidential. We’ll listen with love. And we’ll stay through it all.
Email us here to start the conversation today!
Should I just end it all?
Life is hard right now. In fact, it’s really hard.
Something happened. Something has left you with intense emotional pain. You’re feeling stressed. Depressed. Hopeless. Alone. Empty. Maybe unfair things happened. Things you didn’t expect, cause or deserve. Your life is a mess - or at least it feels that way. You feel like no one cares. You just want an escape. Maybe you even want to end it all . . .
There is no doubt about it - this life is hard. But friend, before you let depression win, please read this page to the end. We’re not here to just give you a sweet pep talk about life. We’re here to point you to help, hope, truth, and light.
Suicide is a permanent decision.
It’s irreversible. Once done, there is no going back. Not only is it permanent for you, but its permanence is also deeply felt by those you leave behind. Whether it’s a spouse, a child, a parent, a sibling, a friend, or a coworker, everyone who takes their own life leaves someone behind. Suicide not only takes your own life, but it also tragically affects the lives of all those around you.
Don’t make a permanent decision over a temporary feeling.
No matter how hopeless you feel, no feeling can last forever. Feelings are like waves. They flow strong and then later they subside. They come again, and then they go. They are always up and down. Don’t ever make a major life decision when you’re feeling down. You can’t think logically or clearly when you’re depressed. Wait until the strong emotions subside so you can fully process what you’re doing. If you find yourself in a really long season of depression, seek help right away (more on that below).
Remove anything that is not safe for you in this state.
If you’re fighting thoughts of suicide, take away everything you can think of that might allow you to make an impulsive decision to take your life. Whether it be pills, other drugs, weapons, a particular setting or situation, or even aloneness. Avoid the places that might become triggers. Spend as much time as possible in busy places if being alone is a risk. Do whatever it takes to remove the factors that would make it easy for you to hurt yourself. Find safe family members or friends and make them aware of your struggle. Let them know you may need them just to be present if you ask.
Focus on ending your pain, not your life.
You do not have to die to take away your pain.
We mean it! There is a much better way.
Seek help. It is ALWAYS available.
Seek out someone you can trust and tell them exactly how you are feeling. All you need is one. And if you’re unsure who to ask? We will be that one for you! That’s right. Here at Berean, we’re committed to walking alongside you. We will calmly listen with love and understanding. We will extend grace and empathy. We will strive to comfort and guide. We will let you know that you’re not alone. Sometimes all you need is someone who will listen. We want you to know that we will.
The Bible commands us to “bear one another’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2), and we take that very seriously. Why? Because life is far better when we do it together. God created us to live in relationship with one another. Doing life together makes the load a little bit lighter and the joy a whole lot greater.
We’ll do everything we can to help you through this, and we’ll assist you in getting professional help if needed too. We’ll help you find and make the contacts you need for a doctor, a counselor, or another resource that can help.
Realize that your life has tremendous value.
You are not your anxiety. You are not your depression. You are not your illness. You are not whatever it is that you’re feeling or going through. It doesn’t define you - God does! And God says you are:
- Loved (Lamentations 3:22-23; Romans 8:38-39; 1 John 4:9-11)
- Beautifully created (Psalm 139:13-17)
- Valued (Matthew 10:31)
- Chosen (John 15:16)
- Here for a purpose (Ephesians 2:10; 1 Peter 4:10-11; Jeremiah 29:11)
God's plan for your life is far greater than you could ever possibly imagine (Ephesians 3:20). It is far bigger than whatever it is you’re feeling at this moment.
Don’t take your own life! Help is available. You matter. Your life has value. And you are loved JUST as you are. Never forget that.
And whenever you need reminding, we’re here for that too. We’d love to chat over coffee or by email or phone - whatever makes you feel most comfortable.
Email us here to start the conversation today!
Need immediate help?
Call 9-1-1 or the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 9-8-8. Help is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You are NEVER alone.
Should I get a divorce?
You’re no longer happy in your marriage. When you got married, maybe you were misguided into thinking that it would be a bed of roses - a cakewalk.
After all, you were madly in love. This person was your soulmate - how could anything go wrong, right?
But after you’d been together for some time, life happened and you grew comfortable. Before you knew it, you’d drifted apart and you were left wondering how you even got there. And now? There’s been conflict, perhaps even betrayal. You’ve been deeply hurt and you’re not sure you want to stick it out . . .
If that’s you, friend, and you’re actively considering divorce, we encourage you to think about a few questions first. We can’t make the decision for you, but we’d like to at least give you some thoughts to consider.
Have you thought about this decision seriously?
Divorce is not something that should be rushed. It’s a life-altering decision that should not be taken lightly. In fact, it’s not a one-time decision as much as it is a whole new journey. It is not only husband and wife who are affected, but children and extended family members as well. It has implications for friendships, finances, and all future family activities and gatherings. The price of divorce is high - emotionally, mentally, relationally, and financially.
Have you realized divorce is not a quick solution to your problems?
Divorce does not suddenly fix everything that’s wrong. It’s a process that will engage you with your spouse for years–even decades–after the formal litigation has been finished. You will always be connected to your spouse in some way, especially if you have children. These relationships can be complex and often quite stressful. In the midst of a divorce, you can choose to be civil and kind, but it is up to you and your spouse to determine if that will happen.
Have you considered your reasons for wanting a divorce?
The Bible describes marriage as a sacred union ordained by God (Mark 10:9). Did you know that God didn’t create marriage just to make us happy? In fact, he created it to be a beautiful covenant reflecting his relationship with the Church (Ephesians 5:25-33). We should not break the marriage bond just because it feels right in the moment or aligns with our hasty personal wants.
What are your reasons for wanting a divorce? Are you just not feeling it anymore and hoping for an escape from a problem?
The truth is that we won’t always feel in love with our spouse.
But, just as God chooses to love us in our imperfections, we too can choose to love our spouse even when things aren’t perfect. When we choose love over momentary feelings, it gives true hope for restoring a relationship.
On the other hand, perhaps you’re considering divorce because your marriage truly is damaging you - or maybe it has even become unsafe. There are certain behaviors that should never be condoned. If you are suffering abuse or betrayal from your spouse, the price of your safety or sanity may be a cost that is unbearable and unwise. In that case, divorce is sometimes the best decision.
Have you had healthy expectations from your marriage?
The grass will be greener on the other side - at least that’s what we like to tell ourselves. But if you’re trying to leave your marriage because you think it will be better “over there,” then you will most likely be disappointed. The truth is that no marriage is immune to disagreements and imperfections. Marriage is not always going to be a fairytale or Hollywood romance.
All marriages take work, care, forgiveness, and intentionality. Remember, anything of value is worth fighting for and requires consistent nurturing and attention.
Have you done your part?
Have you tried to show grace and understanding to your spouse? Have you listened with an open mind to what’s on their heart? Have you tried to walk in their shoes? Have you prayed for your spouse and asked them how you can make the marriage better? Have you done the hard work of examining how you have contributed to the tension? Are you genuinely willing to forgive, reconcile, and restore? Now, does your spouse always deserve that? Probably not. But if you go the extra mile, and respond with kindness rather than spite, it can go a long way.
Every marriage takes two. Sometimes no matter how hard you try to make things right, your spouse will still ultimately want to proceed with divorce. At least in the end you can know you tried your very best.
Have you sought help?
Before dissolving your marriage union, have you considered your options to get help? Serious, skilled, and wise counsel can often identify the real issues leading to divorce and help you work through them. Seek help prior to any legal proceedings. With understanding and listening, many couples find hope and forgiveness and acquire new skills to renew their relationship.
Have you also reached out to God?
Every marriage needs support – a solid foundation. God is there, and he understands your heartache, fear, and raw emotions. Your church, your pastor, or a Small Group can also help to nurture you through the darkness. You don’t have to do this alone. God’s love and wisdom are right there with you (Hebrews 4:16).
The choice is ultimately yours, but we’re here to walk with you.
At Berean, it is our sincere desire to cheer you on in your marriage, to walk with you through periods of darkness and hurt, and to see your marriage renewed and restored to the fullest. However, we’ve never walked in your shoes.
Only you and God know what has truly happened in your home behind closed doors.
We can’t make the final decision for you, but we want you to know that we’ll walk alongside you. We’ll love you, listen to you, and encourage you in the best way we know how. And, if you’ve already gotten a divorce, we want you to know that we’re here for you too. You are welcome at Berean just as you are – married, divorced, hurting, or searching. The Church is full of imperfect people who are all in need of God’s grace and mercies. Our God is one of love and second chances for us all.
Need to chat? We’d love to pull up a chair over coffee or talk by email or phone - whatever makes you most comfortable. You may also wish to check out some of the following resources on Berean’s website:
Email us here to start the conversation today! Also, be sure to check out Clint and Michelle's story below from our Real Life Story Tellers.
Is there a way through my grief?
Life was going great. Then, it happened. It turned your world upside down. It stole your joy and replaced it with tears. It derailed your plans and shattered your heart, leaving you to pick up the pieces.
Hard times come when you least expect them, throwing you into a season of grief through which you’d never wish to walk. You’re filled with so many different emotions and you’re wondering if you’ll get through it.
We know it’s not easy, but there is a way. You’re not alone. Help is available. And you will make it!
Recognize that grief is normal.
Maybe others have told you to stuff your feelings away - to just move on and get over it. But that’s not how it should be. You don’t have to hide how you feel or pretend that everything is okay if it’s not.
In fact grief, with its different stages, is a healthy, natural process. I mean, you’ve just lost someone or something significant to you. It’s normal to grieve that loss. You must walk through grief and give yourself time to cope with your feelings so that you can adjust to the changes in your life. Grief is a process that you can and should embrace, allowing it to unfold naturally to help you on a path toward healing. Forcing yourself to just move on is simply not healthy.
Realize that your grief journey is unique to you.
Loss is a natural part of life, whether it be the loss of a loved one, a friendship, a job, a dream, a pet, financial stability, or your health. Grief is a journey that happens for all. But guess what? It’s not the same for all. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. There is no one-size-fits-all or set time frame for grief. Be patient with yourself and don’t become weighed down by the expectations of others. This is your journey and your story.
You must walk through grief in a way that is healthy and natural for you.
Try to understand the many emotions of grief.
At first, you experience shock and denial. You can’t believe what happened and you’re not willing to accept it. Eventually, the truth sets in. Those around you return to life as normal. But for you? The loss suddenly becomes very real. And all the emotions? There’s certainly no shortage of them. Sadness. Anger. Guilt. Confusion. Anxiety. Depression. You’ll likely experience them all . . . and that’s okay. After all, you’ve been through a lot.
Accept the emotions but choose to rebuild.
At some point, you’ll find yourself at a crossroads. You must decide what to do with all those emotions. You can either allow them to bury you, or you can process them and seek a healthy outlet to manage them. Grief can affect you emotionally, socially, physically, mentally, and spiritually. If you fail to deal with your emotions, you will continue the downward spiral. You must channel all your emotional energy into rebuilding your life. This often begins when you accept help.
Seek out and accept the help of others.
There is no shame in asking for help. What you need most might just be a confidential friend who is willing to come alongside you and listen with love. Take away your grief? Well, they probably can’t do that, but they can let you know you’re not alone. They can be a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold, a listening ear, and a safe space to share.
Embrace Jesus as your true Comforter.
No matter how much others care for you, there is truly only One who can heal your broken heart. That One is Jesus. He is your Comforter.
He sees your pain. He cares about your tears. And he will carry you through. When you have Jesus, you will still walk through seasons of grief, but you will no longer have to grieve without hope (Psalm 34:18; 1 Thessalonians 4:13-14). Be sure to read the other articles above to learn more about this Jesus and his life-giving hope - for you!
Know that we’re here for you too.
Here are Berean, we want you to know you’re not alone. We’re here to listen and walk with you through whatever it is you’re facing. In fact, we have a special program called the Stephen Ministry for this purpose. Stephen Ministers are confidential, Christian friends who are trained to listen, care, encourage, pray, and walk alongside you through difficult times. We also offer a class called GriefShare to walk with you through the loss of a loved one and help you move toward rebuilding your life.
Have questions? We’d love to chat! We’ll answer them over coffee or by email or phone - whatever makes you feel comfortable. There is a way through your grief and we’re here to help you find it.
Take the first step toward rebuilding your life by emailing us here today!
