Quarantine Toolbox: Challenge of a Healthy Marriage

by Dan Feldkamp on April 28, 2020

Welcome to Take Ten at Ten with Pastor Dan!

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The Meaning of Love

We don't always mean what we say, and what we say doesn't always express what we mean.

I love jelly doughnuts.
I love my wife.

Are those loves the same?

When someone makes a marriage commitment and says, "I love you" it often means "I love me and I want you." Keeping marriage vows is difficult and everyone fails to some extent. What makes a marriage healthy is a commitment that's not based on the other person.

Ephesians 5 encourages a husband to love his wife as Jesus loves the church. Jesus' love is self-sacrificing and it's based on his ability to keep the covenant relationship. It's not based on conditions that we must meet.

Don't treat your marriage the same as your love for a jelly doughnut. Love selflessly and unconditionally. And that's possible because of Jesus' love.

Tags: love, marriage, commitment, covenant, self-sacrifice, forburnsville, forlakeville

About the Author

Dan Feldkamp

Pastor Dan and his family started attending Berean in 2014. After having an excellent worship experience and hearing the gospel boldly proclaimed, they committed to serving at Berean.

Dan has been a pastor on staff since 2016. He felt called to full-time ministry at an early age and committed to serving as God's "Swiss Army Knife" to be used wherever God wanted him. Dan has a Bachelor's Degree in Youth and Family Ministry and Biblical and Theological Studies from Crown College and is completing a Master's in Divinity from Liberty University.

Dan and his wife have been married for 20 years and have two children. His favorite things to do are spending time with his family, including violin lessons with his daughter, and watching God turn the lights on in the lives of his people.

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